After two solid nights of no sleep, I contacted a foster family and put Pearl into the care of a very nice gentleman I met through Adopt-A-Pet.com He is 71 years old, lives in one town over from us and is home 90% of the time. I had to bring her to somewhere that would further her healing- her constant meowing is not good on her health. I just got an email from him a few moments ago, she is fine and sitting behind his chair right now. I am hopeful that his steady presence will soothe her and tonight she will sleep (as will I) instead of meowing non-stop. He will stay with her until her spay, then I will take her for 48 hours. I already have her up on Petfinders and CL looking for a family with someone who will be home all the time. The right family who will love her after her spay as she deserves to be.
So I caved, I didn’t meet her needs and I called UNCLE and hopefully have moved her forward in her healing instead of setting her back. Time will tell
Good luck, loverly Pearl kittie, how ever things work out for you.
You met Pearl’s needs perfectly: when you realised that she may need another environment for a while, you provided that for her. It seems to me that you did very well by her.
Honey – that is NOT caving…..that is reaching out and asking for help. He sounds wonderful and we hope that Pearl blossoms a little more under his care. And think of it this way – you have given this gentleman some wonderful companionship as well.
Here is the first report this morning on Pearl-
“She was very calm all afternoon and night. she likes sitting on my lap and being brushed and petted. most of the time she is laying under the table or behind my chair. she purrs a lot when she is on my lap.
tried to take her to bed with me but she only stayed for a little while then back under the table. I woke up at 3 am this morning and checked on her and she was under the table, I sat down in my chair and patted my leg and she came over and jumped into my lap and I petted her for about 15 min then she got down and went and layed under the table again and I went back to bed. She ate one can of the soft good and a little of the hard food. I do not hear her crying at all. Very calm cat. Comes out once in a while and snoops around then back to laying down.”
So I was right that being here is stressful for her because she is alone. If I think about the vets summation that she had been buried, I can understand her terror at being alone, being in the dark and not knowing what is coming next. He leaves a light on next to his chair 24/7 and that adds to her security as well.
I asked him why he wants to foster cats and he told me that after his wife passed away (they always had cats) his cats passed away months later. He went through the tremendous grief and vowed “No more cats.” But he missed the companionship and so went into fostering. He lives alone has no other pets and stays home except for shopping and doctor trips. Sounds like he might be the perfect home for her! *G* But I would never mention that, if he does, well that is another story for another time-