One of my friends Natalie called me the other day. She was so upset. Nat has had a bit of a hard life. She had finally found her soul mate about ten years back. They married and had children and she was doing so well. Then Craig was killed (he was mugged) in Riverside, and her world shattered.

Nat managed to regroup after awhile. She stayed with her great job, continued to be both parents to her two kids and kept it together. She finally got to the point where the lonely nights were to much for her. Knowing that Mike and I met through a personal ad umpty-dozen years ago, she called me for some advice.

Mike and I met before PC invaded the home. We wrote letters for four years, passed cassette tapes back and forth- you know, the time of the dinosaurs? I suggested to Nat that she turn to the Internet. I gave her several websites to look at, some were for people with pets- as Nat loves dogs, cats and horses, I told her about eHarmony, chemistry.com and a few others I had only heard about.

I did caution her about being careful about sharing to much information with online people and to meet in a neutral place with a crowd for protection. I also told her get a pay-as-you-go cell phone and give that number out to anyone she might be interested in. Just to be careful because you never know!

Ok, so Nat went to eHarmony. She told me the questionaire that they asked her to fill in took her almost an hour to complete! When she hit submit, she was told that she wasn’t suitable for a match! What the heck?

She was so angry she was spitting nails. After we talked a bit, she calmed down and I decided to do some research for her. I went to Google and typed in rejected from eHarmony……..

Oh my word! There is a legion of people out there who this website has denied happiness. Not to mention, some other things going on that don’t look really good. But, I found this blog and I have to link my readers to it. The woman is hysterically funny on this subject (as well as other subjects). It is well worth the read for sure:

http://susanisaacs.blogspot.com/2006/03/rejected-by-eharmony_14.html

But to eHarmony’s defense, I do know of several couples who met on there, and they are still together and happy. After researching some of the reasons why eHarmony rejects you- I believe Nat’s honesty got in her way. She was married three times. It is unfortunate that they don’t allow you a box to explain you were a widow twice, or maybe death is just an unforgiveable sin there?

I sent Nat the links to the websites I found where people are speaking out about being rejected. But this one, was just so clear and humorous, I had to share-