The plan of action regarding Ashley is to take no action at all. I have been ignoring her since the last incident, where she got so scared that she couldn’t stop pooping on herself. I did talk to a few cat behaviorists that I know and  other than supporting my Bach Flower remedy choice- Aspen-(which now goes into water bowls in the house) they agreed that minimizing the threat she feels she is under is the best choice

If I were to press the issue and force her to endure being picked up or held/restrained in any fashion- all the  small positive strides we have made together would quickly vanish  Plus it would freak her out to the point that she might not return back to me the way that I know her to be.

As hard as it for me to refrain from “trying” to fix her,  and to accept the “do no harm” aspect  This is how it must be  pushing her to accept what I believe she needs, that is not what she needs. Sometimes in our attempt to get it right. We can get it so wrong.She did come out yesterday and say hello to me, so her trust is gradually returning. However when I reached down to try to pet her she fled.

When I say that I am ignoring her, I don’t mean that I’m not feeding her or taking care of her (just to make that clear). Her Achilles heel seems to be Friskies canned prime fillets (chicken fish flavored). So I have been leaving dots of it around the house for her to find. No strings attached.

Our wintertime cat food supply is dwindling. Should anyone care to help us out we could sure use more canned food at this time. The weather is still bitter cold at night. Right now we’re sitting at 27°F. It’s 6 o’clock in the morning and I just went out to feed. They seem to like it when I warm up the food in the microwave first .